This is me with L on her 1st birthday. It's not that I looked particularly bad, it was more that I didn't spend any time on my appearance any more. I thought I was okay with that, I really and truly believed that I was the same person, just without make up. Well, now it turns out I may have been wrong. It occurred to me the other day that my own self image has really taken a hit since my second daughter was born. Breastfeeding and a lack of money severely limits my wardrobe choices, and honestly motherhood has changed me so that I don't really know my personal style anymore. I don't have and identity, I'm just Mummy.
So I made a decision. I started looking at plus size fashion blogs, and online clothing stores, to try and rediscover what appeals to me. The other day when we went into town, I did my hairs and make up. Wore outrageously bright pink lipstick, and clothes that made me feel pretty. We had a great day, and every time I caught sight of myself whilst we were out I liked the way I looked.
So I bought myself some second hand clothes and jewelry, and I've been making more of an effort for myself. I started looking after my nails again, as painting them is something I really enjoy doing.
Depression is hard. Especially with children, and when you are struggling financially and you have very little familial support. I feel like I need to do whatever I can to improve my mental health, and right now that seems to be doing things to make me feel good about myself. I don't know whether it will help in the long run, but right now, it's improving my mood, and that's a positive thing, so it's what I'm going to focus on.